January 8, 2013
Posted in: Performance
Isn’t it interesting how we can’t “not” do something? If I were to tell you to not think about last year’s failures or disappointments, what came to mind?
We are not wired to think is another way of saying you think about what you’re not wanting to think about. I can “not” think about something even though the word “not” is in the sentence. It’s the same for all of us. Knowing that truth can help us succeed in reaching our goals as we move into 2013. Consider those things that you do not want to repeat this year:
I’m not going to do that again.
I’m not going to act like my parents did
I’m not going to eat the way I’ve been eating
I’m not going to fail at my diet
I’m not going to miss out on life
I’m not going to say those things again
Take the word “not” out of every one of those sentences, or your own personal resolution and what do you read?
I’m going to do that again.
I’m going to act the way my parents did
I’m going to eat the way I’ve been eating
I’m going to fail at my diet
I’m going to miss out on life
I’m going to say those things again
All of those are just as if I told you not to think about something – you’ll think about it. There is a story of a high-wire performer who never ever considered falling until one night he had a dream that he did. Telling himself that he would not fall and focusing so hard to not fall, guess what? He fell.
Just as we are incapable of the “nots” in our life. we are capable of changing the way we approach new challenges.
Instead of saying “I’m not”, change your message to say “I am”, or “I will”. Saying “I am going to be healthier this year” is something your mind can take hold of. Saying “this year, our relationship is going to be stronger” is achievable. Saying “we’re not going to repeat what we’ve done in the past” is almost a sure bet that you will do just what you said you were not going to do.
Question: What have you been saying “not” to? Leave a comment!
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